6. FRIENDSHIP.
A RUDDY drop of manly blood
The surging sea outweighs;
The world uncertain comes and goes,
The lover rooted stays.
I fancied he was fled,
And, after many a year,
Glowed unexhausted kindliness
Like daily sunrise there.
My careful heart was free again,--
O friend, my bosom said,
Through thee alone the sky is arched,
Through thee the rose is red,
All things through thee take nobler form
And look beyond the earth,
The mill-round of our fate appears
A sun-path in thy worth.
Me too thy nobleness has taught
To master my despair;
The fountains of my hidden life
Are through thy friendship fair.
VI. FRIENDSHIP.
We have a great deal more kindness than is ever spoken. Maugre all the
selfishness that chills like east winds the world, the whole human family is
bathed with an element of love like a fine ether. How many persons we meet in
houses, whom we scarcely speak to, whom yet we honor, and who honor us! How many
we see in the street, or sit with in church, whom, though silently, we warmly
rejoice to be with! Read the language of these wandering eye-beams. The heart
knoweth.
The effect of the indulgence of this human affection is a certain cordial
exhilaration. In poetry and in common speech, the emotions of benevolence and
complacency which are felt towards others are likened to the material effects of
fire; so swift, or much more swift, more active, more cheering, are these fine
inward irradiations. From the highest degree of passionate love to the lowest
degree of good-will, they make the sweetness of life.
Our intellectual and active powers increase with our affection. The scholar sits
down to write, and all his years of meditation do not furnish him with one good
thought or happy expression; but it is necessary to write a letter to a
friend,--and forthwith troops of gentle thoughts invest themselves, on every
hand, with chosen words. See, in any house where virtue and self-respect abide,
the palpitation which the approach of a stranger causes. A commended stranger is
expected and announced, and an uneasiness betwixt pleasure and pain invades all
the hearts of a household. His arrival almost brings fear to the good hearts
that would welcome him. The house is dusted, all things fly into their places,
the old coat is exchanged for the new, and they must get up a dinner if they
can. Of a commended stranger, only the good report is told by others, only the
good and new is heard by us. He stands to us for humanity. He is what we wish.
Having imagined and invested him, we ask how we should stand related in
conversation and action with such a man, and are uneasy with fear. The same idea
exalts conversation with him. We talk better than we are wont. We have the
nimblest fancy, a richer memory, and our dumb devil has taken leave for the
time. For long hours we can continue a series of sincere, graceful, rich
communications, drawn from the oldest, secretest experience, so that they who
sit by, of our own kinsfolk and acquaintance, shall feel a lively surprise at
our unusual powers. But as soon as the stranger begins to intrude his
partialities, his definitions, his defects, into the conversation, it is all
over. He has heard the first, the last and best he will ever hear from us. He is
no stranger now. Vulgarity, ignorance, misapprehension are old acquaintances.
Now, when he comes, he may get the order, the dress and the dinner,--but the
throbbing of the heart and the communications of the soul, no more.
What is so pleasant as these jets of affection which make a young world for me
again? What so delicious as a just and firm encounter of two, in a thought, in a
feeling? How beautiful, on their approach to this beating heart, the steps and
forms of the gifted and the true! The moment we indulge our affections, the
earth is metamorphosed; there is no winter and no night; all tragedies, all
ennuis vanish,--all duties even; nothing fills the proceeding eternity but the
forms all radiant of beloved persons. Let the soul be assured that somewhere in
the universe it should rejoin its friend, and it would be content and cheerful
alone for a thousand years.
I awoke this morning with devout thanksgiving for my friends, the old and the
new. Shall I not call God the Beautiful, who daily showeth himself so to me in
his gifts? I chide society, I embrace solitude, and yet I am not so ungrateful
as not to see the wise, the lovely and the noble-minded, as from time to time
they pass my gate. Who hears me, who understands me, becomes mine,--a possession
for all time. Nor is Nature so poor but she gives me this joy several times, and
thus we weave social threads of our own, a new web of relations; and, as many
thoughts in succession substantiate themselves, we shall by and by stand in a
new world of our own creation, and no longer strangers and pilgrims in a
traditionary globe. My friends have come to me unsought. The great God gave them
to me. By oldest right, by the divine affinity of virtue with itself, I find
them, or rather not I but the Deity in me and in them derides and cancels the
thick walls of individual character, relation, age, sex, circumstance, at which
he usually connives, and now makes many one. High thanks I owe you, excellent
lovers, who carry out the world for me to new and noble depths, and enlarge the
meaning of all my thoughts. These are new poetry of the first Bard,-- poetry
without stop,--hymn, ode and epic, poetry still flowing, Apollo and the Muses
chanting still. Will these too separate themselves from me again, or some of
them? I know not, but I fear it not; for my relation to them is so pure, that we
hold by simple affinity, and the Genius of my life being thus social, the same
affinity will exert its energy on whomsoever is as noble as these men and women,
wherever I may be.
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