5. LOVE.
"I was as a gem concealed;
Me my burning ray revealed."
Koran .
V. LOVE.
Every promise of the soul has innumerable fulfilments; each of its joys ripens
into a new want. Nature, uncontainable, flowing, forelooking, in the first
sentiment of kindness anticipates already a benevolence which shall lose all
particular regards in its general light. The introduction to this felicity is in
a private and tender relation of one to one, which is the enchantment of human
life; which, like a certain divine rage and enthusiasm, seizes on man at one
period and works a revolution in his mind and body; unites him to his race,
pledges him to the domestic and civic relations, carries him with new sympathy
into nature, enhances the power of the senses, opens the imagination, adds to
his character heroic and sacred attributes, establishes marriage, and gives
permanence to human society.
The natural association of the sentiment of love with the heyday of the blood
seems to require that in order to portray it in vivid tints, which every youth
and maid should confess to be true to their throbbing experience, one must not
be too old. The delicious fancies of youth reject the least savor of a mature
philosophy, as chilling with age and pedantry their purple bloom. And therefore
I know I incur the imputation of unnecessary hardness and stoicism from those
who compose the Court and Parliament of Love. But from these formidable censors
I shall appeal to my seniors. For it is to be considered that this passion of
which we speak, though it begin with the young, yet forsakes not the old, or
rather suffers no one who is truly its servant to grow old, but makes the aged
participators of it not less than the tender maiden, though in a different and
nobler sort. For it is a fire that kindling its first embers in the narrow nook
of a private bosom, caught from a wandering spark out of another private heart,
glows and enlarges until it warms and beams upon multitudes of men and women,
upon the universal heart of all, and so lights up the whole world and all nature
with its generous flames. It matters not therefore whether we attempt to
describe the passion at twenty, at thirty, or at eighty years. He who paints it
at the first period will lose some of its later, he who paints it at the last,
some of its earlier traits. Only it is to be hoped that by patience and the
Muses' aid we may attain to that inward view of the law which shall describe a
truth ever young and beautiful, so central that it shall commend itself to the
eye, at whatever angle beholden.
And the first condition is, that we must leave a too close and lingering
adherence to facts, and study the sentiment as it appeared in hope and not in
history. For each man sees his own life defaced and disfigured, as the life of
man is not, to his imagination. Each man sees over his own experience a certain
stain of error, whilst that of other men looks fair and ideal. Let any man go
back to those delicious relations which make the beauty of his life, which have
given him sincerest instruction and nourishment, he will shrink and moan. Alas!
I know not why, but infinite compunctions embitter in mature life the
remembrances of budding joy and cover every beloved name. Every thing is
beautiful seen from the point of the intellect, or as truth. But all is sour, if
seen as experience. Details are melancholy; the plan is seemly and noble. In the
actual world--the painful kingdom of time and place--dwell care, and canker, and
fear. With thought, with the ideal, is immortal hilarity, the rose of joy. Round
it all the Muses sing. But grief cleaves to names, and persons, and the partial
interests of to-day and yesterday.
The strong bent of nature is seen in the proportion which this topic of personal
relations usurps in the conversation of society. What do we wish to know of any
worthy person so much, as how he has sped in the history of this sentiment? What
books in the circulating libraries circulate? How we glow over these novels of
passion, when the story is told with any spark of truth and nature! And what
fastens attention, in the intercourse of life, like any passage betraying
affection between two parties? Perhaps we never saw them before, and never shall
meet them again. But we see them exchange a glance, or betray a deep emotion,
and we are no longer strangers. We understand them, and take the warmest
interest in the development of the romance. All mankind love a lover. The
earliest demonstrations of complacency and kindness are nature's most winning
pictures. It is the dawn of civility and grace in the coarse and rustic. The
rude village boy teases the girls about the school-house door;--but to-day he
comes running into the entry, and meets one fair child disposing her satchel; he
holds her books to help her, and instantly it seems to him as if she removed
herself from him infinitely, and was a sacred precinct. Among the throng of
girls he runs rudely enough, but one alone distances him; and these two little
neighbors, that were so close just now, have learned to respect each other's
personality. Or who can avert his eyes from the engaging, half-artful,
half-artless ways of school-girls who go into the country shops to buy a skein
of silk or a sheet of paper, and talk half an hour about nothing with the
broad-faced, good-natured shop-boy. In the village they are on a perfect
equality, which love delights in, and without any coquetry the happy,
affectionate nature of woman flows out in this pretty gossip. The girls may have
little beauty, yet plainly do they establish between them and the good boy the
most agreeable, confiding relations, what with their fun and their earnest,
about Edgar and Jonas and Almira, and who was invited to the party, and who
danced at the dancing-school, and when the singing-school would begin, and other
nothings concerning which the parties cooed. By and by that boy wants a wife,
and very truly and heartily will he know where to find a sincere and sweet mate,
without any risk such as Milton deplores as incident to scholars and great men.
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