Therefore, within the ethnical circle of good society there is a narrower and
higher circle, concentration of its light, and flower of courtesy, to which
there is always a tacit appeal of pride and reference, as to its inner and
imperial court; the parliament of love and chivalry. And this is constituted of
those persons in whom heroic dispositions are native; with the love of beauty,
the delight in society, and the power to embellish the passing day. If the
individuals who compose the purest circles of aristocracy in Europe, the guarded
blood of centuries, should pass in review, in such manner as that we could at
leisure and critically inspect their behavior, we might find no gentleman and no
lady; for although excellent specimens of courtesy and high-breeding would
gratify us in the assemblage, in the particulars we should detect offence.
Because elegance comes of no breeding, but of birth. There must be romance of
character, or the most fastidious exclusion of impertinencies will not avail. It
must be genius which takes that direction: it must be not courteous, but
courtesy. High behavior is as rare in fiction as it is in fact. Scott is praised
for the fidelity with which he painted the demeanor and conversation of the
superior classes. Certainly, kings and queens, nobles and great ladies, had some
right to complain of the absurdity that had been put in their mouths before the
days of Waverley; but neither does Scott's dialogue bear criticism. His lords
brave each other in smart epigramatic speeches, but the dialogue is in costume,
and does not please on the second reading: it is not warm with life. In
Shakspeare alone the speakers do not strut and bridle, the dialogue is easily
great, and he adds to so many titles that of being the best-bred man in England
and in Christendom. Once or twice in a lifetime we are permitted to enjoy the
charm of noble manners, in the presence of a man or woman who have no bar in
their nature, but whose character emanates freely in their word and gesture. A
beautiful form is better than a beautiful face; a beautiful behavior is better
than a beautiful form: it gives a higher pleasure than statues or pictures; it
is the finest of the fine arts. A man is but a little thing in the midst of the
objects of nature, yet, by the moral quality radiating from his countenance he
may abolish all considerations of magnitude, and in his manners equal the
majesty of the world. I have seen an individual whose manners, though wholly
within the conventions of elegant society, were never learned there, but were
original and commanding and held out protection and prosperity; one who did not
need the aid of a court-suit, but carried the holiday in his eye; who
exhilarated the fancy by flinging wide the doors of new modes of existence; who
shook off the captivity of etiquette, with happy, spirited bearing, good-natured
and free as Robin Hood; yet with the port of an emperor, if need be,--calm,
serious, and fit to stand the gaze of millions.
The open air and the fields, the street and public chambers are the places where
Man executes his will; let him yield or divide the sceptre at the door of the
house. Woman, with her instinct of behavior, instantly detects in man a love of
trifles, any coldness or imbecility, or, in short, any want of that large,
flowing, and magnanimous deportment which is indispensable as an exterior in the
hall. Our American institutions have been friendly to her, and at this moment I
esteem it a chief felicity of this country, that it excels in women. A certain
awkward consciousness of inferiority in the men may give rise to the new
chivalry in behalf of Woman's Rights. Certainly let her be as much better placed
in the laws and in social forms as the most zealous reformer can ask, but I
confide so entirely in her inspiring and musical nature, that I believe only
herself can show us how she shall be served. The wonderful generosity of her
sentiments raises her at times into heroical and godlike regions, and verifies
the pictures of Minerva, Juno, or Polymnia; and by the firmness with which she
treads her upward path, she convinces the coarsest calculators that another road
exists than that which their feet know. But besides those who make good in our
imagination the place of muses and of Delphic Sibyls, are there not women who
fill our vase with wine and roses to the brim, so that the wine runs over and
fills the house with perfume; who inspire us with courtesy; who unloose our
tongues and we speak; who anoint our eyes and we see? We say things we never
thought to have said; for once, our walls of habitual reserve vanished and left
us at large; we were children playing with children in a wide field of flowers.
Steep us, we cried, in these influences, for days, for weeks, and we shall be
sunny poets and will write out in many-colored words the romance that you are.
Was it Hafiz or Firdousi that said of his Persian Lilla, She was an elemental
force, and astonished me by her amount of life, when I saw her day after day
radiating, every instant, redundant joy and grace on all around her. She was a
solvent powerful to reconcile all heterogeneous persons into one society: like
air or water, an element of such a great range of affinities that it combines
readily with a thousand substances. Where she is present all others will be more
than they are wont. She was a unit and whole, so that whatsoever she did, became
her. She had too much sympathy and desire to please, than that you could say her
manners were marked with dignity, yet no princess could surpass her clear and
erect demeanor on each occasion. She did not study the Persian grammar, nor the
books of the seven poets, but all the poems of the seven seemed to be written
upon her. For though the bias of her nature was not to thought, but to sympathy,
yet was she so perfect in her own nature as to meet intellectual persons by the
fulness of her heart, warming them by her sentiments; believing, as she did,
that by dealing nobly with all, all would show themselves noble.
I know that this Byzantine pile of chivalry or Fashion, which seems so fair and
picturesque to those who look at the contemporary facts for science or for
entertainment, is not equally pleasant to all spectators. The constitution of
our society makes it a giant's castle to the ambitious youth who have not found
their names enrolled in its Golden Book, and whom it has excluded from its
coveted honors and privileges. They have yet to learn that its seeming grandeur
is shadowy and relative: it is great by their allowance; its proudest gates will
fly open at the approach of their courage and virtue. For the present distress,
however, of those who are predisposed to suffer from the tyrannies of this
caprice, there are easy remedies. To remove your residence a couple of miles, or
at most four, will commonly relieve the most extreme susceptibility. For the
advantages which fashion values are plants which thrive in very confined
localities, in a few streets namely. Out of this precinct they go for nothing;
are of no use in the farm, in the forest, in the market, in war, in the nuptial
society, in the literary or scientific circle, at sea, in friendship, in the
heaven of thought or virtue.
But we have lingered long enough in these painted courts. The worth of the thing
signified must vindicate our taste for the emblem. Everything that is called
fashion and courtesy humbles itself before the cause and fountain of honor,
creator of titles and dignities, namely the heart of love. This is the royal
blood, this the fire, which, in all countries and contingencies, will work after
its kind and conquer and expand all that approaches it. This gives new meanings
to every fact. This impoverishes the rich, suffering no grandeur but its own.
What is rich? Are you rich enough to help anybody? to succor the unfashionable
and the eccentric? rich enough to make the Canadian in his wagon, the itinerant
with his consul's paper which commends him "To the charitable," the swarthy
Italian with his few broken words of English, the lame pauper hunted by
overseers from town to town, even the poor insane or besotted wreck of man or
woman, feel the noble exception of your presence and your house from the general
bleakness and stoniness; to make such feel that they were greeted with a voice
which made them both remember and hope? What is vulgar but to refuse the claim
on acute and conclusive reasons? What is gentle, but to allow it, and give their
heart and yours one holiday from the national caution? Without the rich heart,
wealth is an ugly beggar. The king of Schiraz could not afford to be so
bountiful as the poor Osman who dwelt at his gate. Osman had a humanity so broad
and deep that although his speech was so bold and free with the Koran as to
disgust all the dervishes, yet was there never a poor outcast, eccentric, or
insane man, some fool who had cut off his beard, or who had been mutilated under
a vow, or had a pet madness in his brain, but fled at once to him; that great
heart lay there so sunny and hospitable in the centre of the country, that it
seemed as if the instinct of all sufferers drew them to his side. And the
madness which he harbored he did not share. Is not this to be rich? this only to
be rightly rich?
But I shall hear without pain that I play the courtier very ill, and talk of
that which I do not well understand. It is easy to see, that what is called by
distinction society and fashion has good laws as well as bad, has much that is
necessary, and much that is absurd. Too good for banning, and too bad for
blessing, it reminds us of a tradition of the pagan mythology, in any attempt to
settle its character. 'I overheard Jove, one day,' said Silenus, 'talking of
destroying the earth; he said it had failed; they were all rogues and vixens,
who went from bad to worse, as fast as the days succeeded each other. Minerva
said she hoped not; they were only ridiculous little creatures, with this odd
circumstance, that they had a blur, or indeterminate aspect, seen far or seen
near; if you called them bad, they would appear so; if you called them good,
they would appear so; and there was no one person or action among them, which
would not puzzle her owl, much more all Olympus, to know whether it was
fundamentally bad or good.'
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