The dry light must shine in to adorn our festival, but it must be tempered and
shaded, or that will also offend. Accuracy is essential to beauty, and quick
perceptions to politeness, but not too quick perceptions. One may be too
punctual and too precise. He must leave the omniscience of business at the door,
when he comes into the palace of beauty. Society loves creole natures, and
sleepy languishing manners, so that they cover sense, grace and good-will: the
air of drowsy strength, which disarms criticism; perhaps because such a person
seems to reserve himself for the best of the game, and not spend himself on
surfaces; an ignoring eye, which does not see the annoyances, shifts, and
inconveniences that cloud the brow and smother the voice of the sensitive.
Therefore besides personal force and so much perception as constitutes unerring
taste, society demands in its patrician class another element already intimated,
which it significantly terms good-nature,--expressing all degrees of generosity,
from the lowest willingness and faculty to oblige, up to the heights of
magnanimity and love. Insight we must have, or we shall run against one another
and miss the way to our food; but intellect is selfish and barren. The secret of
success in society is a certain heartiness and sympathy. A man who is not happy
in the company cannot find any word in his memory that will fit the occasion.
All his information is a little impertinent. A man who is happy there, finds in
every turn of the conversation equally lucky occasions for the introduction of
that which he has to say. The favorites of society, and what it calls whole
souls, are able men and of more spirit than wit, who have no uncomfortable
egotism, but who exactly fill the hour and the company; contented and
contenting, at a marriage or a funeral, a ball or a jury, a water-party or a
shooting-match. England, which is rich in gentlemen, furnished, in the beginning
of the present century, a good model of that genius which the world loves, in
Mr. Fox, who added to his great abilities the most social disposition and real
love of men. Parliamentary history has few better passages than the debate in
which Burke and Fox separated in the House of Commons; when Fox urged on his old
friend the claims of old friendship with such tenderness that the house was
moved to tears. Another anecdote is so close to my matter, that I must hazard
the story. A tradesman who had long dunned him for a note of three hundred
guineas, found him one day counting gold, and demanded payment: --"No," said
Fox, "I owe this money to Sheridan; it is a debt of honor; if an accident should
happen to me, he has nothing to show." "Then," said the creditor, "I change my
debt into a debt of honor," and tore the note in pieces. Fox thanked the man for
his confidence and paid him, saying, "his debt was of older standing, and
Sheridan must wait." Lover of liberty, friend of the Hindoo, friend of the
African slave, he possessed a great personal popularity; and Napoleon said of
him on the occasion of his visit to Paris, in 1805, "Mr. Fox will always hold
the first place in an assembly at the Tuileries."
We may easily seem ridiculous in our eulogy of courtesy, whenever we insist on
benevolence as its foundation. The painted phantasm Fashion rises to cast a
species of derision on what we say. But I will neither be driven from some
allowance to Fashion as a symbolic institution, nor from the belief that love is
the basis of courtesy. We must obtain that, if we can; but by all means we must
affirm this. Life owes much of its spirit to these sharp contrasts. Fashion,
which affects to be honor, is often, in all men's experience, only a
ballroom-code. Yet so long as it is the highest circle in the imagination of the
best heads on the planet, there is something necessary and excellent in it; for
it is not to be supposed that men have agreed to be the dupes of anything
preposterous; and the respect which these mysteries inspire in the most rude and
sylvan characters, and the curiosity with which details of high life are read,
betray the universality of the love of cultivated manners. I know that a comic
disparity would be felt, if we should enter the acknowledged 'first circles' and
apply these terrific standards of justice, beauty, and benefit to the
individuals actually found there. Monarchs and heroes, sages and lovers, these
gallants are not. Fashion has many classes and many rules of probation and
admission, and not the best alone. There is not only the right of conquest,
which genius pretends,--the individual demonstrating his natural aristocracy
best of the best; --but less claims will pass for the time; for Fashion loves
lions, and points like Circe to her horned company. This gentleman is this
afternoon arrived from Denmark; and that is my Lord Ride, who came yesterday
from Bagdat; here is Captain Friese, from Cape Turnagain; and Captain Symmes,
from the interior of the earth; and Monsieur Jovaire, who came down this morning
in a balloon; Mr. Hobnail, the reformer; and Reverend Jul Bat, who has converted
the whole torrid zone in his Sunday school; and Signor Torre del Greco, who
extinguished Vesuvius by pouring into it the Bay of Naples; Spahi, the Persian
ambassador; and Tul Wil Shan, the exiled nabob of Nepaul, whose saddle is the
new moon.--But these are monsters of one day, and to-morrow will be dismissed to
their holes and dens; for in these rooms every chair is waited for. The artist,
the scholar, and, in general, the clerisy, wins their way up into these places
and get represented here, somewhat on this footing of conquest. Another mode is
to pass through all the degrees, spending a year and a day in St. Michael's
Square, being steeped in Cologne water, and perfumed, and dined, and introduced,
and properly grounded in all the biography and politics and anecdotes of the
boudoirs.
Yet these fineries may have grace and wit. Let there be grotesque sculpture
about the gates and offices of temples. Let the creed and commandments even have
the saucy homage of parody. The forms of politeness universally express
benevolence in superlative degrees. What if they are in the mouths of selfish
men, and used as means of selfishness? What if the false gentleman almost bows
the true out Of the world? What if the false gentleman contrives so to address
his companion as civilly to exclude all others from his discourse, and also to
make them feel excluded? Real service will not lose its nobleness. All
generosity is not merely French and sentimental; nor is it to be concealed that
living blood and a passion of kindness does at last distinguish God's gentleman
from Fashion's. The epitaph of Sir Jenkin Grout is not wholly unintelligible to
the present age: "Here lies Sir Jenkin Grout, who loved his friend and persuaded
his enemy: what his mouth ate, his hand paid for: what his servants robbed, he
restored: if a woman gave him pleasure, he supported her in pain: he never
forgot his children; and whoso touched his finger, drew after it his whole
body." Even the line of heroes is not utterly extinct. There is still ever some
admirable person in plain clothes, standing on the wharf, who jumps in to rescue
a drowning man; there is still some absurd inventor of charities; some guide and
comforter of runaway slaves; some friend of Poland; some Philhellene; some
fanatic who plants shade-trees for the second and third generation, and orchards
when he is grown old; some well-concealed piety; some just man happy in an ill
fame; some youth ashamed of the favors of fortune and impatiently casting them
on other shoulders. And these are the centres of society, on which it returns
for fresh impulses. These are the creators of Fashion, which is an attempt to
organize beauty of behavior. The beautiful and the generous are, in the theory,
the doctors and apostles of this church: Scipio, and the Cid, and Sir Philip
Sidney, and Washington, and every pure and valiant heart who worshipped Beauty
by word and by deed. The persons who constitute the natural aristocracy are not
found in the actual aristocracy, or only on its edge; as the chemical energy of
the spectrum is found to be greatest just outside of the spectrum. Yet that is
the infirmity of the seneschals, who do not know their sovereign when he
appears. The theory of society supposes the existence and sovereignty of these.
It divines afar off their coming. It says with the elder gods,--
"As Heaven and Earth are fairer far
Than Chaos and blank Darkness, though once chiefs;
And as we show beyond that Heaven and Earth,
In form and shape compact and beautiful;
So, on our heels a fresh perfection treads;
A power, more strong in beauty, born of us,
And fated to excel us, as we pass
In glory that old Darkness:
-------- for, 'tis the eternal law,
That first in beauty shall be first in might."
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